I met Jessica on Tinder and she quickly informed that she was 'polyamorous'...I had no idea what that meant so quickly assumed it meant she had two dicks. Or a vagina and a dick.
All I saw was the word POLY staring back at me and I knew exactly what that meant: multiple. Maybe she has crazy multiple orgasms, that could be neat. I of course didn't realize then that the root of the second part of the word, amorous, is from the latin “amor” and literally means love in Spanish. She lived her life without a complete commitment to one single person with the capability to be in relationships with as many people as she saw fit for that period of her life.
I breathed a sigh of relief when I read that description, content that I did not have to deal with a bunch of dicks.
We hung out about 5 times that long summer. We got food and listened to music in Mexico, drank cold beer on warm August nights and of course, we fucked. My curiosity was becoming as hard to contain as my libido around this girl so I asked if she would come on the show to talk about the lifestyle of a married, bisexual, polyamorous woman.
A few weeks before I took off from Southern Arizona to travel around the West, we met up at a hotel in Tucson to hang out one more time. After eating some chinese food delivery and whiskey, we sat down and got into the nitty gritty of how these types of relationships work.
Love him or hate him, Kirill Bichutsky has made a name for himself as a NYC nightlife photographer, throwing his own brand of parties that include the infamous ‘champagne facial’, and being a provocateur on social media. His brand of humor is unapologetically brash, self-deprecating, and raunchy. He has accumulated over 2 million followers across Snapchat, Instagram, and Twitter where he is known as three different aliases: ‘UglyRussianJew’, ‘SlutWhisperer’ and ‘KirillWasHere’ respectively. A lot of people get pissed off at him and just as many are fervent supporters. He seriously doesn't care either way.
Some say that he is objectifying the women with his act, especially the part where he dumps champagne and milk on them to invoke images of cum in porn. His brand of partying has been banned from venues and cities for being too obscene and causing a stir with local women rights groups. In the end, he seems to simply wants to host the party where people have a memorable night.
Kamal has trekked to one of the highest base camps in the Himalayas, meditated with Tibetan monks in the Dalai Lama’s monastery, earned his US Army Infantry patch, walked 550 miles across Spain, lived in Paris, written several bestsellers, held the hands of dying patients, and worked with some of the best people in Silicon Valley.
A few years ago he lost all his money from his company failing, had a close friend die and became severely depressed. Out of that experience came his first book “Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It” which went on to become a runaway bestseller on Amazon that currently garnishes over 2,000 4-star reviews. After reading that and changing my own mindset (Cory and I have talked about his book and the effect it had on episode 15), I reached out to him to be on the show. Over a year later we were finally able to sit down and talk about how he crafted his new book, “Rebirth” which came out January 3rd.
The story follows a young man walking the Camino de Santiago in Spain and living an entire lifetime full of love, sorrow, adventure, discontent, and doubts within a month of hiking. Kamal is as genuine as they come in this episode
Meet Fernando "Nando" Urias, a firefighter and professional roper in Southern Arizona. Like most of us, he spent decades being a self-proclaimed "class clown" and never putting 100% effort into anything from fear of failing. After being humbled by a respected mentor, he altered his mindset, threw out the lies he had been telling himself and committed to the goal regardless of the outcome. His hard work payed off and he recently made it and competed in the National Championships in 2016.
What exactly did he do and how can it help? Listen to his stories and hacks for changing your story and re-writing it to embrace the failure instead of pushing it away.
I wasn't sure if I should post this episode and still feel vulnerability from doing so...I'm going to take that as a sign to do it.
The other day I was staring out my window as a monsoon storm swept through Southern Arizona near Mexico and I suddenly bolted off the couch to grab my journal. I quickly wrote 5 thought patterns that were negatively affecting every aspect of my life and my entire worldview about myself. Some have been around since childhood and all of them mold the man I am and will become unless I consciously change them.
I am not sure how or why they presented themselves to me in that moment but once I wrote them down, I felt a lightness that took hold for days. This podcast is based on those limiting beliefs I harbor within myself and what I am doing to defeat them.
If it doesn't help you, remove the thought from your mind.
Please reach out to me if any of these resonate with you and let's RISE TOGETHER.
Some people seem to be born with a propensity to an existence not entirely controlled by their ego...how do we incorporate those traits into our lives to live a life full of real substance? A firefighter, ex-cop, family man, and my good friend "Boonie" talks with me about keeping life simple to get the most out of it.
CEO and Founder of greatist.com Derek Flanzraich realized that there was a need for health information that was relevant, realistic, and balanced. So he created it and now his website gets over 10 million unique visitors every month.
Listen and learn how Derek stays true to himself in a high pressure world, what he recommends doing BEFORE improving or starting any project, and what creativity means in the digital age.
Health and well-being is available to all of us, sometimes we just need the right motivation. Check out www.greatist.com for articles, videos, and tips on everything to feel like the best version of you!
Politics is such a loaded phrase with polarization occurring across our country and apathy taking shape in multiple platforms.
It is easy to feel let down or frustrated in the current climate, and I believe the first step towards improving our relationship with politics, the government system, and social movements is simple: the truth.
Complicated issues such as illegal immigration never have simple solutions, but looking at the facts is a great place to start.
Pamela Starr is an Associate Professor at USC of International Relations and Public Diplomacy with a specialization in US/Mexico relations. She also happens to be my aunt.
Some of the topics we cover:
1. Explain the mindset of Donald Trump voters
2. Are illegal immigrants actually taking jobs from Americans?
3. What news companies and are the best for non-bias information?
4. Does your vote matter?
5. How can an ordinary citizen make a difference in the community?
I'm not good enough. I'm not beautiful enough. I can't do it. Once I get this, then I will be satisfied. How do we deal with the normal stream of comparisons and negative thoughts exacerbated by modern life? It starts by knowing that you aren't alone.
Rob is a soon-to-be doctor from Australia and is one of the most confident people I have ever met so I was extremely surprised when he started telling me about all the doubts and insecure thoughts he has on a daily basis. This predicament of life can be overcome through honesty with yourself and other tactics described in this episode.
We all have vices: our phones, TV, coffee, TV, porn, sweets, and other distractions take up our time, threaten our health, and distract from our goals. Changing one part of the habit loop can change all of that and give you the ability to live the life you want instead of the one dictated by unconscious decisions. Once it becomes a new habit, it is almost effortless to maintain.